Relationship operations platform
buildmyroster consolidates every prospect from every dating app into a single, filterable pipeline — then puts an AI to work interviewing them, flagging the liabilities, and scoring the rest, so you decide with data instead of a Thursday you'll never get back.
Now importing from Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, Raya, Feeld & 40+ sources. No more open tabs. No more mixing up which one has the boat.
One roster, fed by everything you're already on
concurrent conversations the average active user is maintaining right now
hours a week lost to app-switching and re-reading old chats to remember who's who
of promising leads that went cold last quarter purely from disorganization
dashboard that this all, quite obviously, should have been the whole time
Source: buildmyroster internal cohort study, n=2,140. You already knew this.
The roster
This is a live demo, seeded with a sample roster. Click any prospect to open their AI interview brief and scorecard. Advance them, bench them, or archive them — the roster keeps score.
Capabilities
They built software to keep you swiping. We built software to help you finish.
Ask every prospect the same eight questions and compare their answers side by side. Never re-litigate "so, what do you do?" again. Your questions, your rubric — from "how do you handle conflict" to "unprompted, describe your relationship with your mother."
Deploy Roster AI to run the opening conversation on your behalf. It probes for consistency, tests for red flags, matches their energy exactly, and hands you a scored brief before you spend a single evening.
Score anyone on anything: humor, honesty, effort, neediness, emotional availability, financial signal, reply-to-length ratio, median text latency. Define your own axes. We won't judge them. We'll just score them.
Filter by height, ideology, dog ownership, or median response time. Save the views that matter: "Actually Employed." "Wants Kids (Verified)." "Would Survive My Group Chat."
Never let a promising lead go cold. Sequence your outreach, set re-engagement reminders, and let the roster nudge you before a good one drifts to the bottom of an inbox you forgot you had.
A funnel view of your entire love life. Conversion by stage. Bench depth. Roster health over time. Time-to-first-date. Ghost rate, by you and to you. Finally, the numbers to have an honest quarterly review with yourself.
Real-time notifications the moment a prospect trips a rule you set: reappears on a second app, changes their stated height, or uses the phrase "I'm not like other guys" in earnest.
Split-test first messages across the pipeline and let the data settle it. buildmyroster tracks reply rate, sentiment, and time-to-response so you stop guessing and start converting.
Roster AI
Roster AI opens like you would, probes like you wish you did, and notices what you'd miss at 11 p.m. It never gets invested. It never gets tired. It writes the brief before you've decided whether you care.
Click a prospect in the roster above to read a full interview transcript and scorecard.
How it works
Link Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, Raya and the rest. We pull in your active conversations and de-duplicate the three guys named Josh automatically.
Choose your screening questions, your scoring dimensions, and your non-negotiables. Takes about nine minutes. You've spent longer deciding whether to reply.
Roster AI interviews and scores. You get briefs, not chores. You step in only when someone earns it. Everyone else waits, neatly, on the bench.
From the field
I had four apps and a spreadsheet held together by shame. Now I have a roster and a quarterly review. My therapist is thrilled and, I think, a little threatened.
The AI caught that two of them were the exact same energy in different fonts. I would never have seen it. It saved me a whole summer.
Consolidating my roster added an estimated $0 to my income and roughly eleven years to my life. I cannot recommend it and I cannot stop.
I did not realize I was being evaluated. In retrospect, the questions were very good. I scored a 61. I think that's fair.
Pricing
Cancel anytime. Your roster is exportable. Your dignity is your own responsibility.
$0/forever
For getting your affairs in order.
$19/month
For a roster that's actually moving.
$49/month
For diversified holdings.
Custom
For professionals managing rosters on behalf of clients.
The memo
For years, women have been asked to run a high-volume, multi-channel screening operation with no CRM, no analytics, and no support — using tools engineered to keep them swiping, not deciding.
The incumbents made a fortune on your indecision. Every unanswered message is retention. Every "let's keep it casual" is churn they can re-monetize. They will never, ever build the tool that helps you finish, because finishing is the one thing they can't sell.
buildmyroster is not another place to meet people. It is the place you keep the people you've already met — organized, scored, and out of your head — so you can finally think clearly about them. That's it. That's the whole product.
It is also, we are repeatedly told, a little bit funny. We genuinely do not see it.
— The founders, Concurrency Labs
Reasonable questions
Yes. We are a real company with a real roadmap and a real concern about your Thursdays. Whether it is funny is a private matter between you and your roster.
Transparency is a core value. Prospects are informed that they are "part of a considered process." What they picture when they hear that is, respectfully, not our department.
The apps already did that — quietly, and to you. We simply handed you the same dashboard they'd been keeping for themselves. You're not the product here. For once.
Men can be added to a roster. Men cannot yet build one. We are exploring a companion product, working title "buildmybench," for 2027. Interest has been described as "concerning."
Nothing. That is precisely the point.
Your data is our competitive moat. We would sooner sell the office. (We are, for the record, subletting the office.)
Early access
We onboard in cohorts, in the order in which people admit they need this. No credit card. No obligation. No more open tabs.
By requesting access you agree to be quietly relieved.